Have you ever wondered what it’s like being behind the scenes on a porn set? Well, join Girl on the Net as she visits the shoot of Petra’s latest queer genderfuck porn scene. But Petra doesn’t do things like many other porn directors: this is a porn set like no other…
I can’t remember the last time a guy said ‘I demand an orgasm during sex’, and I’m sure if he had the reaction to it would have been one of confusion: “you demand an orgasm? But… you get one as standard!” Yet when Nicki Minaj said that she ‘demands orgasm equality‘ during sex, it was considered big news.
The Mirror opened their coverage with the line: “We always suspected Nicki Minaj was a bit of a diva and it seems she is in EVERY aspect of her life.” And don’t get me started on the Daily Mail comments – one commenter even suggested that “climaxing is unnatural for women” because it serves no reproductive purpose.
There was such outrage over something that, to me, seems so obvious: of course women should demand pleasure from sex.
You only need to look at the banners on a mainstream website (such as “Hot babes in your area want to suck cock!”) to see that they’re assuming a target audience of men. Not to mention the fact that so much mainstream porn caters to fantasies that are clichéd visions of male fantasies. So how do we distinguish porn that is based on female fantasies? Often this is done by using phrases like ‘female-friendly porn.’ While it’s important to distinguish porn which breaks this mould, some of the ways we do it imply that women need something fundamentally different.
I just received my proof copy of the German magazine “Der Spiegel” which ran their cover story on female sexuality. The article is based on a brand-new study of female sexuality as well as expert interviews (and I am proud I was one of them).
The study by the Institute of Sexuality at the University of Hamburg, questioning 2100 students, has unearthed lots of exciting and encouraging facts:
In 1996 only 11% of German women apparently used a vibrator or dildo, now it is 38% of women who pleasure themselves with a toy. It is not just toys that can be a huge turn on however: my thesis has always been that women are voyeurs too and can get turned on by porn, especially porn that features female fantasies and focuses on female pleasure. The statistics show that indeed more and more women enjoy porn and are not ashamed to admit this:
23% of women had watched porn in the last 4 weeks and 44% of couples now watch porn together. In 1996 only 29% of couples enjoyed porn together.