Listening to Splash FM in the car the other day I came across an advert for ‘The Sussex Woman Show’ at Brighton Racecourse. The ad was so upbeat and fun: “A perfect girls’ day out, hosting stalls with everything a savvy modern woman could need or want. A great opportunity to bring your mother, daughter, sister or friend for a day out and have a giggle!”
And then came the little bit at the end from the sponsor, Mcindoe Surgical with the tagline “For the life you want to live!”.
You guessed right, it is a plastic surgery company McIndoe Surgical that is sponsoring the “perfect girls day out”! So that lovely feel-good fun-for-all-the-family day out they were advertising to an empowering sound track of ‘Here Come the Girls’ was actually flogging fake tits, trout pouts and designer vaginas.
Everyone who knows my films is aware how much I love to show female pleasure – especially women receiving great head, and guys who love giving it. Why is this so important to me and other feminist pornographers? Well, we don’t see it anywhere else. Cunnilingus in mainstream porn is usually done quickly and badly, if at all. It’s shown for about a minute as a warm-up for the main act: penetration. Fellatio, on the other hand, can go on for ages and is often the main focus of the scene, or leading up to the culminating ‘cum-shot’, usually in the woman’s face. (more…)
It must have taken a lot of courage for Angelina Jolie to announce to the public that she had undergone a double mastectomy to reduce her risk of getting breast cancer. Recently she wrote a beautiful, candid piece for the New York Times called ‘My Medical Choice’, which described how she lost her own mother to the disease, and how, after testing positive for a defective gene called BRCA1 she learnt she had an 87% chance of developing it too, as well as a 50% risk of ovarian cancer. You can read it here.
She says she took the decision to undergo the surgery, reducing her risk of breast cancer to 5%, so that her six children would know that they won’t lose her to the same disease that she lost her mother to. The decision to go public with the news was to raise awareness of gene-testing so that other women potentially at risk would take the test and be able to make their own informed decision. In a world where the bodies of female celebrities are obsessively scrutinised, gossiped about and considered public property, Angelina Jolie is risking considerable invasions of personal privacy by sharing her experience. (more…)
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day about how hard she’s finding her relationship. Part of the problem is that they’ve been together for quite a long time and are monogamous. He’s not interested in negotiating any other kind of relationship and, frankly, she’s starting to go a bit crazy! Having spent years having a lot of fun and enjoying polyamorous relationships before she met him, she decided she wanted something with more of an emotional connection and committed to an exclusive relationship. At first she enjoyed the sexual and emotional exclusiveness but now she feels she cannot be truly herself in this relationship any longer. Even though she loves him, she has some sexual needs that she cannot live out with her partner. He does not want her to live out her kinkier desires with other lovers and she finds it impossible to repress those desires any longer. Until recently she has been ‘paying’ for the emotional security that the relationship offers with her freedom, having had to neglect parts of her sexual self in order to keep him happy and the relationship going. (more…)
Boobs are getting a lot of press at the moment, between the new movement to ban The Sun’s Page 3 almost-nude photo, and the furore over Kate Middleton’s topless sunbathing. Both stories show how far we have not travelled.
The Sun began featuring an image of a topless model on Page 3 of its daily newspaper in 1970. Over the years, several attempts to ban this practice have failed. In August, author and actor Lucy-Anne Holmes began her ‘No More Page 3’ campaign. Her petition on Change.org is gathering signatures fast. Holmes is hoping that the tide of social opinion is ready to turn.
The problem with Page 3 is that it sexualises women generally. A naked woman is not a news story. It simply panders to a male reader’s sexual desires. How it makes the women feel, sitting on either side of him on a packed commuter train, is often different. Objectifying women in a newspaper reinforces the notion that all women are sexually available at all times and are ultimately “sluts”. It’s perhaps not the right media in which to address sexual desire. (more…)
I was shocked to learn that apparently in the last 10 years the number of women who had through the surgery on their vagina to minimise their labia (labiaplasty) has increased fivefold. Last year, 2000 women had the surgery done on the NHS. And this is just the tip of the iceberg, as there is no data available as to how many women had this surgery done privately.
Sarah Creighton, a clinical gynaecologist at the University College London Hospital, states that there is a massive increase in teenagers and young women who request this surgery even though they have perfectly normal and healthy vaginas. Creighton and clinical psychologist Lih-Mei Liao confirm that one of the reasons why so many women think their vagina is “not normal” is because there are hardly any images of normal vaginas published anywhere that women could look at for reassurance. (more…)
The sun has just come out and I have nipped to the garden to feel the warm rays all over my body. I love being nude especially in the sun and sea – it makes me feel free. It is such a shame that there are so few places where it is Ok to be nude. Having grown up in Germany, I was used to nude mixed gender saunas. It was a shock when I walked into an all female sauna in London for the first time in the nude and all the other women were dressed in bathing suits. I learnt that nudity was not optional but forbidden – even in an all female environment. (more…)
What is it about cross-dressing men that creates such a fuss?
Alex Reid’s photo in drag (dressed up for a Fetish party) was front page news in the UK tabloids. He was called a “freaky gay… doing sick things” by his ex’s new boyfriend Leonardo Penna. He is now and forever referred to as a cross dresser, nudge, nudge, wink, wink – as if that discredits him for any professional achievements (in the oh so macho world of cage fighting) or sexual relationships with women. In chat rooms he is called “disgusting” and women tweet that “they like their men to look like men”.
But what does a real man look like? Do we really want to limit acceptable looks of the male gender to muscle mass and body hair? What is wrong with a guy who enjoys cross-dressing, wearing make-up or generally embracing his femininity? (more…)
Oh, the joys of working in the adult industry. Every month I receive a new edition of some of the adult trade magazines. Usually most items featured in these mags amuse or mildly annoy me. But sometimes they feature some stuff that really disturbs me.
On the front cover of the current issue of the “Sign” magazine are various “Realistic ‘fuck me silly’ Masturbators” which are basically dismembered female body parts with holes in them made of silicone. (more…)
I recently came across an article in The Guardian called “The Naked Truth” taking a strong stance against pubic hair removal.
The author Bidisha wrote:
“Women can now expose their pipi to the breeze from now until the day they die. Great. Why would they want to? If porn told you to jump off a cliff, would you do that too? At least now we can confront the naked truth about women’s submissiveness in all its stark, raw, bald reality.” (more…)