We need to see more male masturbation in porn

Let’s talk about male masturbation in porn. Partly because it’s something I utterly adore, and secondly – perhaps because I adore it so much – I notice the drastic lack of it.

While there are plenty of straight porn films which feature women masturbating – whether with a partner or on their own – there are far fewer films which really celebrate the beauty of guys jerking off, and package and present that to straight women.

It’s not impossible to find videos of men masturbating, of course. There’s gay porn, for a start. But in mainstream straight porn, male masturbation is incredibly rare. If I want to find a video that gives me a long, hot look at a guy masturbating, usually it’s one of those homemade porn videos where he props the camera on a stand so you can watch the action. Understandably, given that most of these guys aren’t porn stars, the action is limited to a close-cropped, often low-quality shot of them jerking off. I love this type when I’m in the mood, but it’s missing something really significant: the face.

I find it odd, and a bit disturbing, that so few mainstream porn directors have recognised that there are plenty of straight women who enjoy watching men masturbate. Even stranger, because so many porn films end with a very quick, functional bit of male masturbation so that the audience can see that ubiquitous come shot – usually on someone’s face. As Petra says in her FAQs – mainstream porn is so often ‘the same positions and the same outcome.’ When it comes to male masturbation it’s also often presented in exactly the same style – never as a treat for the viewer – no build-up, no tease, no display of pure pleasure; just a flourish at the end of something else.

Don’t believe me? Check it out – from an average mainstream straight porn film (man and woman having sex, in a few different positions), time how long they spend on close-ups of the woman masturbating from a variety of angles. The guy? You’ll rarely see the camera linger on him as he pleasures himself – it’s for one purpose, and one alone: the come shot. If you want to see his face as he comes, you’re as likely to see a unicorn.

When Petra and I were chatting about this, she told me that sometimes male viewers get in touch to complain about her male solo scenes:

“They say “I am not gay, I don’t want to see this” and I say “welcome to my world!”

“99% of straight porn shows on average two solo female masturbations per film and as a straight woman they leave me cold. So in my films I shoot what I and my audience wants to see. Women are voyeurs too but most mainstream porn does not cater to their desires. As a straight woman my “object of desire” is male, so that is what I want to see in porn and show in my films. His hands, his butt, his back shoulders, cock and of course his face. This is why so many women love gay porn because it features male objects of desire and the camera lingers on a hot guy’s body or face rather than just featuring a pumping faceless male torso as mainstream porn does.”

So how do we start to change this ratio? Well, for a start featuring more hot male solo scenes. In (S)he Comes, which is Petra’s collection of amazing seduction stories, Wolf Hudson’s masturbation scene stood out really strongly for me. For a start, Wolf is utterly stunning – the kind of person I’d see across a crowded room and say ‘that person is totally my type.’ Secondly, though, the scene is a vibrant, exciting male masturbation solo with all the build up that you’d want to go with that. He wears beautiful clothes, flirts with the camera, teases his cock with his hands, all the things that get me excited on the occasions I get to watch guys jerking off in real life.

Best of all? You get to see his face. Of course it’s a treat to see someone’s cock as they’re pleasuring themselves, but professionally made male masturbation porn opens up the hottest possible option – watching someone’s face as they reach that peak of orgasm.

It surprised as well as aroused me. Like getting an awesome present on a day it’s not your birthday – realising that this kind of scene just doesn’t happen that often. I’ve seen any number of female solo scenes, or long build-ups in a partner or group scene, in which the camera zooms in while a girl does what I could easily recreate with a mirror at home, and it’s usually left me cold. It’s not a turn off as such, as long as she looks like she’s really enjoying herself, it’s just a disappointment when the favour isn’t returned with a nice long male solo. I’m probably an outlier here, though. For many straight women female masturbation scenes actually leave them cold: if the object of your desire is male, then female masturbation’s going to do very little for you.

It’s based on the same odd assumption that I think limits a lot of mainstream porn: that straight guys are the only ones worth pleasing. Well, they’re not – I want to have a good long look too! Whether it’s feeling like a voyeur and watching a super-hot guy jerking off in the shower (which happens in Female Fantasies, and was so close to one of my personal fantasies that it made me wonder if it had actually been pulled from inside my head!
It’s all about pleasure: I get a huge amount of pleasure from watching guys pleasure themselves. So let’s stop being squeamish about male masturbation because we’re worried it might turn straight guys off, and start considering how much it can turn straight women on.

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